How often are small kindnesses extended without a second thought, simply an automatic gesture between human beings, just because. … Probably millions of time daily around the world. What a wonderful image this suggests. People offering help, care, love and consideration. Society values and rewards such gestures. Studies have shown time and again how gestures of kindness and consideration … [Read more...]
Corralling the Four Horsemen
Some days, it feels like the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse have arrived. But wait! Just who are these unwelcome and mysterious figures? The Four Horsemen originally documented in the book of Revelation represented the “end of days.” They were Death, Famine, War and Conquest. Setting aside the literal end-of-days scenario, what if we consider that we carry within us similar archetypal … [Read more...]
What a person wants
In the middle of a heated exchange, words of exasperation directed at you come out something like, "Well, what do you want?!" These words can be stunning to hear, even disorienting. Feelings of anger and hurt surface. The concept of "what you want" feels foreign. But think about this for a moment. What you want does matter, and should be considered. What you want in life, in a relationship; … [Read more...]
Changing ‘This is me’ to ‘This is us’
If being "in a relationship" is important to you, then making changes and adapting to your partner or spouse is an important developmental process. The adage "This is who I am" underscores a defensiveness that speaks more to a frozen part of who we are, unwilling to reflect on ourselves and make changes benefiting the relationship and the person we profess to love. We all come into … [Read more...]
The Law of Attraction: Another way through the looking glass
The notion that we attract who we are and how we walk in the world perhaps has some merit, but the concept misses some important markers. Deep within us lies an abiding place: One full of creativity, joy, dreaming. But also with deep relational hopes, losses, pain and longings. Longings connected to the pain of lost relationships -- due to an early demise, rejection or an absence. The … [Read more...]
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