Couples intensive therapy is for the courageous. For those who admit they've done all they can do on their own. It’s a brave, bold step for both parties struggling in an endangered relationship. The willingness to seek help is a core positive value, especially in such an intimate part of our lives. Therapists know only too well that those turning to intensive interventions are in a lot of pain … [Read more...]
Corralling the Four Horsemen
Some days, it feels like the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse have arrived. But wait! Just who are these unwelcome and mysterious figures? The Four Horsemen originally documented in the book of Revelation represented the “end of days.” They were Death, Famine, War and Conquest. Setting aside the literal end-of-days scenario, what if we consider that we carry within us similar archetypal … [Read more...]
Changing ‘This is me’ to ‘This is us’
If being "in a relationship" is important to you, then making changes and adapting to your partner or spouse is an important developmental process. The adage "This is who I am" underscores a defensiveness that speaks more to a frozen part of who we are, unwilling to reflect on ourselves and make changes benefiting the relationship and the person we profess to love. We all come into … [Read more...]
The Law of Attraction: Another way through the looking glass
The notion that we attract who we are and how we walk in the world perhaps has some merit, but the concept misses some important markers. Deep within us lies an abiding place: One full of creativity, joy, dreaming. But also with deep relational hopes, losses, pain and longings. Longings connected to the pain of lost relationships -- due to an early demise, rejection or an absence. The … [Read more...]
Flirting, not straying — a question of balance
Being in a committed relationship is a wonderful experience. Two people in a sacred union, sharing love, responsibilities, perhaps children … their lives. For some, nothing is more important in this life. But what about attractions to people outside the relationship -- from mild flirtations to overt emotional affairs? Even in the most committed relationships, there inevitably arise … [Read more...]
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