We frequently are reminded of the need “to give” in our lives. Giving makes us feel better, more worthy, more noble.
Heart-warming morality tales such as “The Giving Tree” and “A Christmas Carol” remind us of the transformations we can go experience when opening our hearts and thinking of others — instead of, “So what’s in it for me?”
These sentiments go a long way toward developing our moral, spiritual and religious character, undeniably. Giving is a good thing.
There is, however, the other side that often goes unattended: the act of receiving.
We need to recognize the importance of accepting something from another with joy, gratitude and love — knowing that the complement to giving is our ability to receive.
Receiving has less to do with entitlement and more to do with our ability to be vulnerable with one another. To allow another person “to do” for us — to let go, relax and receive from someone who cares.
For some, being vulnerable can require some extra awareness. Old fears of being hurt may surface. Perhaps some shame of not being worthy. But at the end of the day, we all deserve to receive from one another, too.
So if you haven’t received lately, try it out. Let yourself experience the pleasure of being cared for by another — it can feel pretty darn good for both of you.
Photo: Jesper Noer