One of the more defining dynamics that can cause the Death of Love is what’s called the shame-rage cycle.
One partner shames the other by way of critical, abusive remarks and the other responds with defensive rage in an attempt to protect herself or himself from verbal or emotional assault.
Once this point-counterpoint cycle begins, one or both partners are likely to resort to some kind of violence.
Either literal violence will occur, or perhaps a material object will be smashed. One or both partners might drown their helpless rage by drinking alcohol, or using drugs, or engaging in some other form of destructive behavior.
Ultimately a marriage cannot survive this shame-rage cycle, for it is a continual form of abuse that in the end leads to the Death of Love.
Compassionately making suggestions for improvement while focusing on your partner’s strengths is a way to interrupt this potentially deadly cycle.
My previous posts on relationship dos and don’ts offers a complete synopsis of how couples need to treat one another to make their marriage or partnership both work and thrive. Please give these techniques a try.