For children to be mentally stable and to feel loved, they must be allowed to express their fears and pain of losses, as well as their hopes and longings. The parent or primary caregiver must listen to, bear the burden of and validate the child's thoughts and feelings with compassion, love, comfort and care. This is the cornerstone of creating a foundation of deep self worth and safety … [Read more...]
Archives for July 2009
Old pain, new relationships: a solution
Like it or not, we're pulled by our unconscious to re-create pain from the past in present relationships. Have you ever heard someone say, "Of all the people she could have married she picked him -- I don't get it?" Or, "Boy she treats him just like his mother did, and he could have had anyone he wanted." Sounds like masochism right? Wrong! We actually re-create the pain from our past for … [Read more...]