Ever wondered why bad drivers get you so worked up? Ever consider that you're not really mad, but scared? Afraid that someone's careless driving could injure you, even take your life? We all go from zero to 100 in a split second when we feel our lives are endangered on the road. It's understandable that drivers react to this needless peril in a dramatic fashion -- but where does all that … [Read more...]
Panic attacks: 10 ways to beat them
1. Remember that although your feelings and symptoms can be very frightening, they are not dangerous or harmful. 2. Understand that what you are experiencing is an exaggeration of your normal bodily reactions to stress. 3. Do not fight your feelings or try to wish them away. The more you face your fears, the less intense they will become. 4. Do not add to your panic by thinking about what … [Read more...]
Show your fear, not your anger
It's okay to say you're afraid. Using the language of fear -- and not anger -- can promote intimacy and preserve love. Remember when you saw your child bolt down the pathway heading straight for the road and you yelled out in anger? Or when your spouse accidentally knocked over the saucepan of hot water and you angrily blamed him for being clumsy? Our nervous system reacts in a few simple … [Read more...]