How often do we really listen to the ones we love? And when we do, why are we so ready to defend and justify our behaviors that our loved ones say are harmful? What if just for a moment, we take that essential beat and then turn to healing thoughts such as these: If this person didn't care about me he would not be hurt by me. I impact this person, therefore I must matter a lot to her. He … [Read more...]
Archives for May 2009
Panic attacks: 10 ways to beat them
1. Remember that although your feelings and symptoms can be very frightening, they are not dangerous or harmful. 2. Understand that what you are experiencing is an exaggeration of your normal bodily reactions to stress. 3. Do not fight your feelings or try to wish them away. The more you face your fears, the less intense they will become. 4. Do not add to your panic by thinking about what … [Read more...]
The subtle art of manipulation
Manipulation gets a bad rap. It's not always a bad thing. Sometimes manipulation can change a situation that might be headed in a harmful direction into a healing one. For example, Sarah, a teenager, is getting ready to go on her first date. She comes down the stairs and asks her parents if she looks OK. She is nervous, unsure of her appearance and could easily collapse into shame. … [Read more...]